what makes someone a sore loser?
i have thought about it for a very long time. i've even googled it, but all i got was a bunch of hits on "new york jets fans".
at the risk of being too personal and exposing my weaknesses to the general public... oh, who are we kidding... if you're reading this and you know me, you know how much i HATE to lose. i have always been like that. ask marji, my friend since age 5. there isn't a game on earth we haven't played that i didn't cheat at. and while i did grow up some, and pretty much quit cheating by the time i reached high school, i still have a really hard time losing.
i think the reason it's on my mind is that i see it becoming a very prevalent trait in my son. i've sort of learned to deal with it myself... although, when i say i "sort of" learned how to deal with it, i am about to confess a very humiliating thing: i cried a few weeks ago when skip spanked me in rummy. yes, i actually quit before we finished because i was losing so severely, i couldn't handle it anymore. and then i exploded into tears! all the while i was thinking, "what the hell is going on here? am i five?" we play a game almost every night, and we're pretty even on the win/lose ratio. and i usually handle my wins and losses with grace. but for some reason, which totally escapes me, that night was a complete fiasco.
so. then there's my son. it's like a mirror image. and i really want to help him deal with that, because unless he finds his own personal marji, every other kid is gonna say "great. game time with whiny boy. WICKED fun." obviously, to get to the root of a problem, you have to find the cause. it has to be some kind of insecurity, right? but honestly, i believe i'm still a decent person in spite of my shellacking in rummy the other night. so why the devastation?
anyway. maybe it's one of those "hello, idiot" things (see above). i dunno. maybe everyone in my circle of trust is keenly aware of something that i myself am blind to. but if you can shed some light on this for me, or have any tips on how to help my son over the hurdle, please comment or email me. if not, then i'll be forced to teach him how to cheat like a pro.
4 comments:
Is it being a sore loser when you complain about the demonstrable fact that the other team cheats to win? And by "other team" here, I of course mean the New England Patriots, whose several Super Bowl titles are now tarnished.
Go ahead: Consider those fighting words.
what's with the huggies?
"tarnished" is a very strong word, my friend. there may have been some videotaping, but i'm fairly certain we received the public flogging only bc we got caught first. find me any other team who doesn't have a contemptible cache of camera phone footage. and cheating or no cheating, there is mind-blowing talent on that patriots team. you can cheat and still lose, because you have no talent. but three superbowls later? i'm not trying to justify the cheating, but don't short change us in the athletic department. gloves are on. bring it.
hmm. well, between the two of you and anyone else, one of you will always win. just as long as you're always on my team. and when you're not, you can just tell yourself that you "let" me win.
Here's the dealie-o. First off babe, cheating is cheating. Now as for why you cheat, the answer is obvious. You cannot stand losing to someone who is better then you. That someone is me, your other/better half. Yes, I'm a product of the Los Angeles Unified School District, never did my homework, and only went to my classes that had the hot teachers or the ones that did cool things. You just can't stand the fact that a Laker loving, Angel fan can actually beat someone from bean-town. I love you baby, you're the light of my life but face the facts. I AM MAN, hear me beat my chest. Or, here's one for you. Have you ever taken the time to think that I'm just a better cheater then you? Love you lots, see ya tonight for some Mojo-magic.
Your loving husband FO-EVA,
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