A couple of basic rules in our house:
1. We walk, not run, indoors.
2. We don't roughhouse in the living room.
3. We obey Mom.
Those are just a few. I mean, it's not like we have a TON, but these are some that take a high priority for me.
The past few mornings, while getting ready for school, there has been a LOT of running, yelling, fighting, roughhousing, and all-around civil disobedience in our house. I have done what I consider to be fair in requesting appropriate behavior. Imagine my confusion at the non-compliance!
I may possibly have lost my temper with the boys this morning over this very issue. While I was in the middle of scolding them, they laughed at me. Oh yes. This is not a joke. Open mockery.
What a bummer!
I don't dig on disrespect. Therefore, consequences follow. All the nice things I enjoy doing for children who are respectful and obedient? DONE! No more! I am legally obligated to provide food, shelter, clothing and an education for my children. Here's how I will accomplish those basic requirements:
1. FOOD: The boys' independent culinary repertoire includes quesadillas, cereal, PBJ or ramen. I will ensure we have those items in the house, available to the boys for all meals of the day.
2. SHELTER: I will let them continue to live in our home.
3. CLOTHING: They have clothes. Whether they get clean or not is up to them.
4. EDUCATION: Since I don't homsechool, public school is their only other option. I happen to drive to their school every day, since it's where I work. Sadly, rides in my car are no longer an option. I did, however, remind them of the safe walking routes as well as the bus schedule.
Because I love my children dearly, I will also continue to provide them with affection. While that is not my legal obligation, I do enjoy that aspect of parenthood. And because I love them, I am also happy to provide them with this opportunity to realize how much I do for them on a daily basis, and why it is important to be respectful and obedient.
So contrary to what they may perceive, they are indeed a step above this:
...and one day, they will thank me for it.
15 comments:
Please write me a book. Thanks :-)
Can we trade places for a while? You be me at my house, and I will let your children lapse into ape like behavior at yours. Really, It'll give you something to do.
my son has requested to go to juvie. it would be SO much better there! (since we took his door and xbox... oh well. he'll get it one day!) They all figure it out... don't we :)
Love it! You are a great mom!
Civil disobedience. Love that phrase. Describes perfectly how boys act with one another.
You go, mama!
You are a rock star.
I was informed yesterday that my son's friend thinks I have too many rules and am too strict. Guess I'm doing my job.
I wonder how I can apply these principles to 5 and 3 year-old boys.
Please advise.
Ouch! How long will this last? You really should write a book! You do so much more than talk the talk, you walk the walk and are going to raise some well-behaved, respectful kids! Good on ya! You are such a good example.
I am with Christie. I loved the phrase, "Civil Disobedience." It is much better than what I call it, "Everyone running around here like crazy people." or, "Acting like a bunch of rabid mongrels."
You are a great mom. Seriously.
I also enjoy your dry sense of humor in your writing.
"HappyBack Jr., you have been disobedient. You know the penalty."
"Bag of poop?"
"Bag of poop. Half an hour this time. Climb in and I'll cinch it shut around your neck."
I cannot believe that with consequences like this at your house there is still "non compliance". I would be retrained very quickly me thinks.
Reading great parenting actions like yours make me feel slightly ill... maybe the screaming, yelling and tantrum throwing (all done by me mind you) isn’t going to be as effective at stopping the non compliance in our house as I had hoped...
You should give lessons...
You go girl.
(And do you choose not to homeschool cause you can't spell, "homeschool"?? Sorry. Couldn't resist.)
You are awesome. I cannot wait to hear the follow up post...
Heck yes! I love your style. Show those boys who's boss!! When I have kids, I'm calling YOU for advice.
If only Jaxon's school had a safe walking route. He hasn't missed the bus in 4 weeks though! (That is huge for him)
Jax has also mentioned that Juvi may be more fun than cleaning up dog poop at our house...
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